Bethanie Mazzaro recently returned from her tour of duty in Afghanistan. Upon her return she also filed for a divorce. Both she and her husband were in the Army Military National Guard. The reason Beth filed for divorce was marital infidelity.
She discovered her husband’s infidelity about a year and a half after his return from Iraq. They had the best relationship up until she found clues that there was something going on. It turned out to be an office romance but it broke apart shortly after the secret was out in the open.
Beth wanted to work on the relationship with her husband, but he just he just wanted to sweep it under the rug and move on. She suggested counseling but he didn’t want to go. The relationship became increasingly destructive and she finally filed for divorce one year after her heart breaking discovery.
The legal proceedings were put on hold due to her upcoming deployment. And, by that time, he had already started seeing another woman. When Beth was deployed she found out that he had purchased a house for this new woman, moved in and had even given her Beth’s minivan.
Beth’s children who were 6 and 11, did not know of the pending divorce while she was deployed. Although her daughter did find out because her Dad was blatant about his other relationship and had introduced her to his kids.. Upon her return from Afghanistan Beth’s divorce was finalized within 30 days.
Here’s Beth’s advice for other women who may be going through the same heart break that she did.
Surround yourself with great friends and family and take time to heal. Be kind to yourself. She used meditation and Reiki to revive her spirit. She also suggests making a plan and sticking with it.
Most importantly, go with your women’s intuition – what you feel in your gut. Spirit does not lie to us. Communication is the key to success. Once the communication stops, so does the relationship…of any kind.