Things happen. You don’t mean for them to happen but they do. Sometimes we do things at the time that seem like a good idea, only to find out later that they are not. Or we say something and there’s no way to take that back. These things happen to everyone but when you are leaving for the next few months, wishing we could take those things back can weigh heavily on a service member’s heart or those of their families.
Knowing that we can say the two most powerful words, I’m sorry, can make a difference. It doesn’t minimize us. It doesn’t make us small, wrong or insignificant. It gives us the power to heal a broken relationship. It gives us the power to leave to do our job without regrets.
Serving in the military is hard on us, our families and our psyche. Knowing that we can forgive ourselves is probably the most important lesson we can learn. Forgiveness changes us and those around us and allows us to go do what we have to do without a heavy burden. It allows us to focus in on our target and do what we need to do.
This same concept applies to returning. Maybe we didn’t call as much as our mom wanted us to. Maybe we didn’t write our girlfriend or boyfriend as much as they would have wanted. Maybe we did or said something in the heat of battle that we regret. Its time to offload the guilt. Its time to make amends and forgive ourselves and others for being human.
Independent filmmaker, author, happiness coach and speaker Lisa Cypers Kamen creates these blogs to entertain, enlighten and educate our service men and women along with their families as well as support our troops. To contact Lisa, email her directly at firstname.lastname@example.org and check out her websites at www.whatisyourhappiness.com , www.harvestinghappiness.com , and www.hh4heroes.org and listen to her on www.harvestinghappinesstalkradio.com or download her show at www.itunes.com.
Harvesting Happiness for Heroes is a pending 501(c)(3), non-profit corporation. Our mission objective is to offer support services to Warriors and Warrior families challenged by Combat Trauma, PTSD and post-deployment reintegration issues. We offer Battle Buddy workshops, family awareness training, online community support, one-on-one coaching services, as well as retreats for Warriors to decompress from battle and understand the tools available for them to adapt their military skills to civilian society.