Many times when I am speaking to soldiers on deployment or recently back from deployment, they share with me the stressful feelings associated with the changes that have occurred. It’s an adjustment for everyone, you, your family and your friends when you leave and when you come home.
Everyone knows the pre-deployment home front battle – the one you have with your wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, child or parent that helps you all say goodbye because you’re now ready to go and they’re ready for you to go. This can happen also when you come back – the return home front battle. We all have to adjust and there are better ways to adjust than picking a fight.
When deploying or returning, it is helpful to recognize that these fights are common. Someone has to put up the flag and say we are fighting because it’s hard to say goodbye. Someone has to put up the flag and say we are fighting because it’s hard when you come home and though I love you it really upsets my routine. Arming yourself with this knowledge can give you the minute to take a breath and steer the situation away from battling on the home front. Knowledge is powerful and when you have power, you have the power to create a happier life for you and your loved ones.
So the next time you are preparing for deployment or returning home, give a thought to what are really fighting about. You might just find that a happier goodbye or a happier hello is just around the corner.
Shining Service Worldwide is a charitable organization that supports all women who are part of the military family. Our goal is successful re-integration back into civilian life