Karilyn Bales Blogs About The Anguish Of A Military Spouse

by Linda Franklin

Karilyn Bales wrote a blog about her daily life as a military spouse.  She detailed her pregnancy, with her husband a world away. She described the knot she got in her stomach from missing him. She wrote of her disappointment after he was passed over for a promotion.

But mostly, Karilyn Bales — the wife of Staff Sgt. Robert Bales, the soldier accused of killing 16 Afghan villagers last week — relayed the simple anguish of life as a military spouse, tending to a home with two young children, with a husband summoned for repeated deployments.

“Bob left for Iraq this morning,” she wrote in her family blog on Aug. 9, 2009. “Quincy slept in our bed last night.”

She described surprise phone calls and solo doctor’s appointments, attempts to clean the house while Sergeant Bales was gone and the “bad dreams” she woke from after a nap on the day he left in 2009

Though much of the family’s online presence appears to have been removed in recent days, the fragments that remain capture the daily travails typical of any family with a loved one stationed abroad.

To read more check out the front page article in Sunday’s New York Times.

My heart goes out to Karilyn and all the militaryspouses who are left behind with so much on their plates to deal with.

Shining Service Worldwide is a charitable organization that supports all women who are part of the military family.  Our goal is successful re-integration to civilian life.


2 thoughts on “Karilyn Bales Blogs About The Anguish Of A Military Spouse

  1. My heart goes out to Karilyn and Robert Bales and their family. We, as non-military in the US, can’t possibly begin to know what it is like to be a soldier in the Middle East and I hope and pray that whatever investigation or possible trial that might take place, happens in the US. Do not send this man back to Afghanistan to stand trial under Islamic law. That in itself would be beyond criminal. This was his 4th tour of duty in the hellhole of the Middle East, and there are more restrictions placed on our military in this war zone that don’t make any sense which have to make serving in a war zone much more difficult. And by the way, where are our complaints about the murders of our military people by “trusted” Afghanis??

  2. I agree with your opionion on this very sad situation…for all the families…and you are right why arn’t we more outraged at the Americans that have been killed? I do know that a dedicated soldier went to war 4 times as he was ordered…we need to find out first what made a veteran soldier act so out of characture …war results in death…we owe our military our support …and the Military has always taken care of their own problems and are still No. 1
    I hope that people are compasionit and supportive of Mrs. Bales and her children…

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